Career Ecology

Snake : Emotional Self Care

Opening our lives to inspired change and growth is exponentially more effective when we practice Emotional Self Care.

A clear sign that things are out of balance is our descent down the emotional scale. It feels like emotional gravity – something we have little power over. We can start our day feeling pretty good, but then there's a traffic accident so we're late to work. Then, when we get to work, we find that someone has forgotten to inform us of a critical meeting, so we're unprepared. Then later on our way home, we run out of gas right before the freeway on ramp. And when we get home, the dog has chewed our favorite shoes. One has to be a saint to experience this with zero fall out.

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Lori + Star

The Power of Subconscious Emotions

According to Star Rose Bond, Career Ecology's consulting psychotherapist, we can track of our emotions on an emotional scale. At the top of the scale we are creative, patient, confident. As we slide down due to triggering people, events, lack of sleep, etc., we tend to experience paranoia, defensiveness, fear, and the like.

The greatest gift we can give ourselves and those around us is to grow conscious of our changing emotions and practice self care. Just as we take vitamin C when we feel a cold coming on, we need a routine for emotional care-taking, especially when events threaten to push us down the scale into the zone of unconscious reactivity.


Self Care Practice


  • Have your journal ready.

First, note your Base Temperament:

At the start of your journey, you took the Four Temperaments Quiz. Do you recall what was revealed? Here again is the link if you need to retake it for this practice [ Quiz ].

Make a note of your base temperament (primary and secondary) in your journal and try to commit it also to memory. There is a great deal of self care and compassion in knowing where you naturally fall on the spectrum. It helps you understand yourself and thereby compassionately give yourself that which you need (like extra alone time) as it synchs directly with your natural state.

Then, note where you fall naturally on 'Emotional Scale':

Attached is a diagram called "Emotional Scale". Part of the practice today is to note where you naturally fall on the scale. For example, Sanguines tend to fall far right of center due to a natural tendency towards optimism, while Melancholics tend to fall more towards the middle or left of center with a natural tendency towards sensitivity and a desire to protect.

Emotional Self Care Exercise, a la Maurice Sendak:

Let's follow the guidance and structure of Maurice Sendack's practice of feeding his

soul, spirit, belonging, and integration in to the whole of Nature.

First ,an inventory – note in your journal the following:

  1. Your base temperament

  2. Where you naturally fall on the emotional scale

  3. Predictable trigger events that drive you down the scale

Now for Self Care, al la Maurice

Music to soothe the soul! Maurice chose Mozart. In case you are curious and not too familiar with Mozart, here is a piece (Sonata for two pianos in D, K. 448 ) that has been clinically shown to reduce siezures in epiltectic patients because the music stimulates suprise and joy in the brain. Amazing!

>> What music delights you in such a way? And/or, what music touches your soul >> Note this in your journal.

Poetry to enliven the spirit! Maurice chose Emily Dickenson. Here is a link to of one of her most beloved poems, "Hope."

>> What poet and poem inspires your spirit? New to poetry? I have two favorites that might delight you. They are Mary Oliver (divine nature prose) and David Whyte (soulful and fantastical).

>> Note this in your journal.

Stories to draw is into our shared humanity! Maurice chose Moby Dick. Here is an excerpt of the book by Herman Melville [ excerpt ].

>> What book, movie or story draws you closer in to being human? To feeling less alone?

>> Note this in your journal.

Nature to wake up the wild within us and fill us with wonder! Maurice walked amongst the trees. Where in nature do you come most alive?

>> Go there as often as you can.

>> Note this in your journal.